Phoebs~C’est La Vie

Well, my labor is really a very eventful experience.
I started to have consistent contraction about 6 min apart since 13th Feb
6.30am.
We went in to my

OB

office around 12noon to
check up. But only the on call dr. is available. She checked me, and said I am
3cm dilated. In

Malaysia

once you dilated even 1cm they will admit you to the hospital. But here, they
will only admit you when you are either 4cm cervix dilated or water broke. So
she sent my home.
Then around 5pm, my contraction about 5cm apart, I called again, the nurse ask
me to go to hospital directly. When reach hospital, the very same on call dr.
checked me again. This time I was 3.5 cm Dilated (I am wondering, how she can
tell the difference for just 0.5cm by using her finger). Then she sent me home
again. That time was around 8+pm . She gave me sleeping pill and pain killer. I
ask will I slept through the labor, since I am on pain killer? She said I won’t,
cos the pain will be very intense.  She said to get from 3.5cm to 4cm,
typically it will take 6-12 hours. But both my mum and sister labor process
happen very fast too. But she still sent us home.

Around 1am on 14th Feb, I was awoken by the intense pain that was only one min
apart, can’t even talk and walk.
We rush through to hospital, there was no wheel chair there, we were ask to go
to emergency room, but I prefer to go to maternity unit, that is faster.
So I force myself to walk.

My water broke right at the entrance of the hospital.
We didn’t even have time to sign all the consent paper, go right to examination
room, once the registered nurse found out I am fully dilated-10cm already, went
to labor room immediately. The very same on Call dr. attended to me ( I guess
she felt guilty, I hope she does due to her under reaction to my situation and
sent me home twice, which can caused life danger to both me and baby if we were
not in time to be in the hospital).

We didn’t have time to have any sort of pain killer, antibiotic, or epidural as
planed, cos it was too late for those to take effect.
So I gave birth in all 100% natural way.
After 5 contraction and pushing attempted-about 25 minutes, our baby Nathalie
was born , 14th Feb 2008 ( which is  also Malaysia time 14th Feb 2008 night).

Because everything happen so fast, my vaginal muscle didn’t have time to get
ready for the stretch, so tearing is about 2.5 inch ( very painful :(  )
But I am glad everything went fine and safe for both Baby and me. So the whole
labor process was less then 1hour (which Dr. said most people will take about
3-6 hours in labor room trying to push)

We got discharged on 16th Feb, and we are now resting and recovering at home.

Now we are coping with new born baby, which really needs a lot of our
attention. Luckily my in laws are here to help up cooking and cleaning, and
help watch the baby a bit  ( most of the time still me cos breast feeding
about 2 hours once, and each feeding will take about 20-45min)

Hopefully things will get much better when both baby and us got adjusted to our
new life style

Well, I better go get some sleep now since baby is sleeping. I was only
sleeping for 2 hours today so far.

So gals, be prepared when you plan to be parent
We are always here to provide you tips if you need some later

Today I woke up really early as the weather forecast says that between 4am-5.30am on 1st September morning will have meteor shower which is visible in Hillsboro area, which is called Aurigid Meteor Shower.

The Aurigid are the dusty remnants from Comet Kiess. This Long-period comet has only visited the inner Solar system twice in the last two thousand years. Its last visit was in 83 BC.

I set up my alarm clock to wake up at 4am ( mind you it has been a long long time already I never wake up so early in the morning, which I normally wake up around 9am or later hehe)

I was expecting a lot of people will be walking around the field in front of our apartment or behind the max station try to catch a glimpse  of the Meteor shower, but to my surprise, I only saw 1 or 2 early birds that walked their dogs in such an early morning, and no one else.  Probably those wanted to see those meteor  shower  have chosen to go to sea side to have a better view.

Try to woke my hubby up to watch it together with me, but he is too tired and lazy to watch with me (cos he went to bed late) , so I went out to the balcony and keep staring at the sky alone for about 40 minutes, nothing happen, but the sky was really clear and not a single cloud at all, the stars were very clearly visible.

MH woke up , then we decided to go down stair, right in front of the field, hoping that we could have some luck to see  Meteors.

I was lying on the brick’s boarder, the boarder of the mini garden, and stared at the sky…… it was so relaxing and comfortable…… not only the view of the sky, but at the same time, the wonderful relaxing Lavender smell is so soothing….. surprisingly I wasn’t feeling sleepy at all. 

Suddenly I saw a slow moving faint light on the sky…… at first we thought that was a night flight, but then when we looked and waited , it is a meteor, but not as what we imagined and seen in the movie that went disappear in seconds.

Then the second faint light moving again. After that, for a long 15min, there was nothing happen on the sky. Suddenly, a very fast moving bright light just crossed the sky…. that was what exactly like what we saw in the movie…. the fast moving meteor that appear and disappeared in seconds. Both of us was so excited….. this is the first time for both of us see Meteor.

We waited for another 5 min, another fast moving meteor flew across the sky…. so amazingly beautiful and exciting.

People used to say that if you make a wish when you see meteor, your wish will comes true. I manage to make a few wishes for each meteor… and may it come true….

It is really a wonderful Meteor watching experience for both of us. We started heading back to our apartment around 5.30am, and continue to sleep again.

Starry starry night…..:)

Well, it’s summer time!
The "tam chia" people like me can’t wait to have a taste of U-pick experience on those lovely fruits like strawberries, peaches, cherries….. yum! lots more……

That of cause very much  depends of the local weather if they permit me to do this fun activity during this beautiful summer.

Don’t forget about the yummy fruit pie, fruity milk shake, ice blended and those heavenly tasty kind of fulfillment when you have a taste of those wonderful yummies!….oh…. yeah… some fruity home made ice cream and jam as well

Not forgetting about those sleeveless T and short pants that you can wear at this time around…. so care free and youthful ( hehe, I know, I am not too young now, but it is important to always feel young at heart :P)

Why wait!?  Enjoy this beautiful summer to the fullest! YEAH!

Does it happen to you that some times there are friends that we once very close are not that close any more after years of separation and each moving toward difference direction in life ( well some might still be living in the same city but just always say they are too busy to even meet up to "yum char")?

Some time it touches me, and make me feels that nothing is forever and permanent. However, another part of me want to believe that if we put some effort into each relationships, it will at least maintain the way it was, and even blossom to a closer and better relationship.  That is what I really hope it will be true.

There are just certain relationships that won’t last forever no matter how hard you tried to maintain, tried to safe, and even if it is always a one way street kind of effort.   Towards the end,  I feel that I have lose faith in those kind of relationship, and I gave up….. I know I am not suppose to feel that way…. but I am sure if you ever be in the same kind of situation, you will eventually feel the same.

I am not saying that all the friendships will die away after lose touch for some times….. I do still have a lot of close dear friends that we might only be seeing each other may be 2-5 years once? or even less due to geographical location that is too far to reach, but we still feel that we are so close and so dear to each other…. that is the magic of true friendship…. that will never fades away…..

Treasure those true friends of yours……..
Show them you care……

Some times it’s surprising how an unfortunate incident or
event that happen in a family can bring in your family members closer. Should
we call it a misfortune or a blessing? After all, all of us become stronger and
happier, most importantly, we understand each other better and we know, there
are always some one there…. that care for us and support us (our family
members)

 I was brought up in a family that is quite conservative and
shy. Not like how American family being brought up that always show their feeling
by saying it out loud like, “ I love you”, “ you know I care for you” and
others kind and loving word around all the time , which I think it is a good
way to being brought up to. By saying that, I am trying to say there is
something wrong with the way I was being brought up to, just in a different
way…..a more traditional way…..

The traditional Asian way of being brought up, resulted in
the superior and inferior kind of system in our family. Such as father is the
King in the family, which is powerful, respected, and fearful. Hence, as a
child, we rarely talk to our father, it seems like he is unreachable, and too
serious to discuss about daily matters (not that he is not friendly, just that
traditionally, father is suppose to be a very serious figure, and not suppose
to joke around with his children, at least not like how we joke around like a
friend)

A mother however is a bridge between us and our father. She
will be the messenger for us when we need to convey message to our father.
Which I think it is common in most society. (Well, probably mother is being
portrait as a softer and loving figure in the family). 

 As a child, our sibling were close with each other, but when
we grow older to pursue our own path, such as studying in different state, working
aboard and having our own family, as we were getting busy and busier and
communicate lesser and lesser with our family, the family ties has been drifted
distance a part….. I guess most sibling experience the same thing………..(
although we know we still care for each other)

 An unhappy event happens last year (2006) to sister. Every
one in the family were so worry and sad about it. It was a horror to all of us. Everything
turns out fine after some painful struggle in life.

Through that incident, I realize that the entire member in
the family really love and care for each other, but no one ever put it in words
and say or show it with each other.

Through that incident, everyone in the family went through
sadness, and paint together, we show love and put it in words, we support each
other…….. It was painful but it turn out that we realized that……. there is
always some one there that care for you…… which will never dies…….

I am really glad that all my family understands each other
better after that incident. It is painful for all of us….. but I am relief and
happy that she is much better and happier now then when she was married….. my
sister is back, the sister I knew before…… the one I grew up with, the one that
is joyful and energetic. 

I always believed that bad thing will followed with a
wonderful blessing.

I am not sure how true it is, but it is always good to
believed in that, to make you stronger, tougher and happier.

Love your family,

Tell them you love them when ever you can,

Show them you love them,

A simple card,

A short phone call,

A small little gift,

And sweet little words.

You will never know how those little things will make a huge
different in each others life……

Love will enrich this wonderful family ties…….

Treasure this wonderful ties……Always……

Some times I wonder, what is the purpose of life? The moment we were born, we came out crying. Is that means we are going to start our life suffering?

We start to grow up bit by bit, from not knowing any thing to start learning how to crawl, walk, talk and play…… until now.

Then we start to go to school, then college, university, getting married,forming family then waiting for retirement. Why is it has to be always the same flow and arrangement? Have you ever wonder?

I suppose the biggest mistake in life is not enjoy fully at the present moment. Most people will alway think,"oh, I can do that later, not now, I am too busy for that. "

Stop for a moment, things might not be the same when you do it later, most of the time, you ended up not doing what you wanted to do, until it is too late or you totally forget about it.

We should treasure what ever we have and doing now, enjoy it now, do it now ( what ever you have in your mind). This moment "NOW" is the best thing you can ever have, when it is still happening. Don’t postponed your life and happiness to the next second, when you are not sure if that moment will come, or will it still be the same….

Treasure every moment you have…..
Life is always beautiful, depends on what angle you are viewing it from…